Attachment styles are the way in which we connect with other people. They are generally developed by infants and further refined by children, adolescents and adults.
People with anxious attachment may show signs of:
◆ Jealousy and frustration when their partner is inattentive or unavailable.
◆ A strong fear of rejection, criticism and abandonment.
◆ A strong desire for a relationship and intimacy and a hard time being alone.
◆ Seeking approval and reassurance from others.
◆ Clingy and needy behaviour in relationships.
◆ Lacking a strong sense of self & low self-esteem.
◆ Becoming extremely upset when receiving disapproval.
◆ Over analysing and worrying excessively about relationships.
◆ Being overly sensitive to a partner's actions and moods.
◆ Being highly emotional, impulsive, unpredictable and moody.
The good news is that you can change the attachment style. It may take time, work and a great deal of understanding from people in life. However, it is possible to build intimate, secure relationships that are fulfilling and give you a sense of fulfilment.
Understanding and managing the wounds of attachment is the best gift that you can give to your relationship.